Wednesday, September 9, 2009

It's ok to be normal

I have exposure to a lot of children with Autism. One of the common misconceptions I am faced with as a therapist, as well as a parent is the ability to accept our children as normal...when they have behaviors that are developmentally appropriate for their age. For instance...when my son learned to lie, I found myself a bit discouraged. His psychiatrist however was pumped...LYING?!? He responded...that's great. What a high level behavior he has developed! I can say for a fact that I wasn't very excited. Now that my son is well on his way to being mid way through his teens, I find myself faced with this dilemma again. I am grateful that I have some friends that are honest enough with me to say...you know a bit of mockery, taunting and teasing is, uh, well, let's just say it's really normal for adolescent boys. I keep telling myself I should appreciate this trait yet I seem to struggle to do so. I also struggle with the awareness about the opposite sex. I am the first to admit that I am HIGHLY overprotective of my boy. Just ask my husband...he tends to point it out, even if you don't ask. But, once again...the comments about, well, let's just say 'hot chicks' I just don't appreciate. I do appreciate however, that he continues to develop and excel and exceed my wildest expectations...and for this little bit of normal, I am forever grateful.